How to Choose a Health Care Proxy & How to Be a Health Care Proxy



Detailed Description

In addition to having the conversation, it’s important to choose a health care proxy – the person who will make decisions about your medical care if you become unable to make them for yourself. This user-friendly guide offers facts and tips necessary to make sound decisions about choosing, and being, a health care proxy.

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Failing Forward Moments

Too many people die in a manner they would not choose, and too many of their loved ones are left feeling bereaved, guilty, and uncertain.

It's time to transform our culture so we shift from not talking about dying to talking about it. It's time to share the way we want to live at the end of our lives. And it's time to communicate about the kind of care we want and don't want for ourselves.

We believe that the place for this to begin is at the kitchen table not in the intensive care unit with the people we love, before it's too late.

Together we can make these difficult conversations easier. We can make sure that our own wishes, and those of our loved ones, are both expressed and respected. The Conversation Project offers tools, guidance, and resources to begin talking with loved ones about your and their wishes.

Type of Tool

Tool or toolkit


proxy, health care, advance directive, advance care planning, conversation


Key Contacts

The Conversation Project


  • Education

  • Access to care

  • Quality of care

  • System change: Community transformation

  • System change: Cultural transformation

  • Health System Transformation Oasis

  • People (community residents, community members with lived experience)

  • Community-based organizations/nonprofits

  • Effective

  • Efficient

  • Individual/family

  • Organization

  • Community/place

  • Childcare

  • Faith community

Geographic Context
  • Urban/large city

  • Rural

Geographic Unit
  • Neighborhood

  • Region (spanning several counties and/or towns)

  • Portfolio 4 (Stewarding the community's long-term overall well-being)

    ​​​​​​In this portfolio, health care organizations actively engage in contributing to the long-term, overall wellbeing of the community as part of their mission and responsibility. In partnership with other community-based organizations, the focus on the community as a whole beyond subpopulations or priority topics.

Action Areas
  • Community benefit

    ​​​​​​Resources to help nonprofit hospitals obtain tax-exempt status by investing in community and population health, in range of services and activities that address the cause and impact of health-related needs.

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